Being Single and Happy

So for the last 6 years I have been single. The last time I was in a relationship was when I was in my first year of college with a girl. Shortly after that relationship I realised I was gay and came out. Yes that means I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy. So much has happened in those 6 years. The experiences and the guys I have met in those 6 years, all the crying, anger, shutting people out I wouldn’t change a thing.

I used to be so desperate to be in a relationship with a guy. This would make me some sort of a needy mess and trust me it wasn’t pretty. When I first moved to university the last thing on my mind was wanting a relationship. All you want to do is go drinking, skipping classes, drinking, shopping, meeting new people and did I mention the drinking. Fresher’s was just a big blur of stuff. When I got into my second year of university, for some reason I just so fixed on wanting a relationship and if it wasn’t a relationship I just needed someone there. From then till about a year ago all I wanted was to be with a guy and have a relationship. All my friends had got their relationships and were so happy. I think being the only single one around the table got to me a little. I got so down wondering when it will finally happen for me. Why hasn’t it happened yet? Why do I meet all the guys who just want a quickie in the bed sheets? Is there something wrong with me?

Then I realised that there is nothing wrong with me and I don’t need a boyfriend to happy. I have such a good network of friends, who always have my back. These last few months in particular I’ve started pushing myself to do things on my own. I go for a coffee on my own, go watch a movie in the cinema, go on a hike to clear my head and even travel to other cities on my own.

What I’m really saying is. Just because everyone else around you is in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to as well. It’s true what people say it will happen when it is supposed to. In the meantime be more independent, enjoy what life throws at you. Get your heartbroken, make mistakes, take every opportunity that is thrown you. Because we all learn from those heartbreaks, all the mistakes and you never know what will happen or whom you will meet if you don’t try new things. Also don’t change for someone just to ensure you get in a relationship. If they can’t accept you for being yourself then it’s just not supposed to be with them. Find out who you are and what you want and you’ll find someone who wants the same things as you. Enjoy the time on your own, make memories and enjoy what single life throws at you.