Grindr and all that stuff.

So yeah it’s a little harder for gays to find someone they like. I mean it’s not exactly like I could walk down the street and be like oh that guy looks hot and go over to him. Chances are he’s straight and got a girlfriend. (Trust me I’ve been there before, always the straight ones)

Grindr isn’t really my friend. I’m not saying all guys on there are the same but 90% are only on there for one thing, and that is a quick hook up and a pat on the back. For guys like me who want something more than that, it’s hard because we get stereotyped as a slag or someone who just wants a guy in your bed. I understand every guy needs that’s phase of sleeping around for a little bit and seeing what and who they like. That was basically my university life. But the older I’m getting and I know I’m only 23. When I’m seeing all my friends in relationships and getting to the one year stage. It just makes me think of why it hasn’t happened yet. I’m constantly told that I should stop looking and it will happen. The only guy that seem to be interested in me are guys 50+ and I’m sorry but really not the type of guy I want.

I feel like apps like Tinder are a little better (not the idea of just swiping right or left because of the looks of someone) you get to have more of a conversation and get to know the guy more. Only down side of this is that, the guys (whom I match up with anyway) always live too far away and makes it hard to date.

There are so many apps out there for gay guy for example we have Hornet, Grindr, Tinder, VGL, Scruff and many more. I don’t want to seem like a nagging mother and it’s not all negative. Some of my closest friends I have met through these apps. It’s a great way to meet new people and expand your friendship and meet people you wouldn’t necessarily approach in the middle of the street. These apps allow guys who have recently come out to get a sense of community and it tells them they are not alone. We are all in the same boat trying to find out who we are in a world, that let’s face it sucks a little at the moment. But it’s these apps that make us forget all that and talk to new people and have a laugh and start to make new connections and relationships. Whether that is a friendship or loving relationship.

Just because we have one negative experience on these apps, doesn’t mean they will all be like this. That’s why I think I’m still on them. It would be like having a negative experience with a guy and never trying again. I just have to stay open minded and see what happens.

It has taken me many years to get to the point in my life where I’m finally happy being single. So what’s the harm in trying to meet new people this way? Just because it’s via an app doesn’t make you a slag, a slut or desperate it’s just your way of trying to make new friendships and see what or who is out there.

The whole point of this isn’t to slag off the apps because at my lowest time, it was talking to guys on these kind of apps that really put things into perspective and made me realise that I wasn’t alone. I just have to remember that we all have our preferences of what we want so why sit here and judge. Go out there whether it’s via the apps or in the night clubs and meet someone new, try something new because you never know where it all make take you.