Body Image and me....

Is it just me or are men becoming more pressured in to having the perfect body. In the last 10 years i feel that we are being pressured to look a particular way. In my experience i feel that i have been judged not on my personality or what i do, but by my body image. I have never been the guy who has has had a six pack , the best skin or had the most recent clothes. Have we become so obsessed with the way someone looks rather than their personality?

I hold my hands up i'm guilty of judging a book by its cover, but i think we all are a little bit. For instance look at Tinder. We don't take the chance to read someones profile to see their interests and hobbies. Instead we look at the first picture that pops up, and in a 2 second decision we swipe left or right.

Over the last 4 years i have been battling with my body image and wanting to look a particular way. I have tried so many diets and joined so many gyms and training and through lack of motivation failed at getting the perfect body. Is it just me that wishes i could click my fingers, and i would wake up the next morning with the body i have always wanted?

We all have parts of our bodies we want to change right? Like with me its my stomach and hips, I wish they were more flat and toned. I have lost weight and yet i still get called fat. I once went on a date with a guy who said to my face "You're a nice guy, just a little to fat to date." Is it just me or should i have just punched him there and then. Joking of course that would't have achieved anything.

I think that men are taking more pride in their appearances and the way they want to look. But i feel like we shouldn't change who we are just to become attractive to a particular guy or girl. I have made that mistake. I have become so obsessed with wanting the perfect body. In all honesty, what is the perfect body anymore? Being comfortable in your own skin allows you to be more confident when meeting new people. Just be who you are and never change for them.

So to all the guys and girls who have ever felt crappy about your bodies. You're all perfect the way you are every single part of you and there is someone out there for you that loves you just the way you are, so never change. And to the guy who said i was too fat too date well here's a pic to say i lost the weight and I'm starting to become much more happier with my own body image. It may not be a six pack and its certainly far from perfect but i am becoming more comfortable with how i look.

But lets be honest, is it just me that is happy to just stay in bed order dominoes and watch Netflix?

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